How To Get Your Ex To Miss You Like Crazy

Let’s face it — breaking up has got to be one of the worst things ever in life. And as pathetic as it may be, practically everyone who has ever broken up with their boyfriend or girlfriend has gone through that phase of “Oh my God I miss you so much, please come back to me, I will do anything, ANYTHING just so we can be together again.”

I’ve had my share of breakups. And while the recovery time varies on the length of each relationship and the depth of my feelings for my ex, one thing is constant: It bites, every single time.

The first time it happened, I was an emotional wreck. I was the one who did the dumping — but then again, he kind of gave me the incentive to do it, because he was totally acting out of character and giving me all sorts of reasons to dump him.

Still, and my point is, regardless if you were the dumper or the dumpee, you would still be yearning to have your ex come back — unless you’ve already moved on and found somebody else.

So of course, the first step, if you really, TRULY want to get your ex back, is to make him or her miss you so that they will start chasing you. And that’s what I’m going to talk about, since I’ve gone through several breakups, as well as collected stories and anecdotes from both my guy and girl friends.


The “No Contact” Rule

The most important thing is: Do NOT initiate contact with your ex whatsoever. Not even if you are drunk, or are really, really, REALLY at your wit’s end. (For utterly drastic measures, you can even allow a trusted friend to take your phone as hostage so you won’t be able to text, email, or call your ex should the urge arises.) I’ve learned the hard way that in this case, the old adage “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” is true.

Simply put, you should follow the no contact rule if you want to make your ex miss you. It’s simple human dynamics at work: The more elusive you are, the more your ex will wonder about you. If you let yourself become too available, then the chances of your ex missing you will definitely decrease.

With the “no contact” rule, it means absolutely ZERO communication — no messaging your ex via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social networking sites; no emails; no text messages; no calls; and definitely no accidentally-on-purpose dropping by the places he or she frequents in the chances of bumping into him or her.

When you follow the “no contact” rule, you should act as if you have disappeared from his or her life, that you’ve practically dropped off the face of earth. Let your ex wonder what’s going on with your life, and let him or her start missing you!

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Avoid The Temptation To Grovel — And Stalk Your Ex

Leaving reminders of you in the places where your ex will most likely go to is a definite no-no if you’re intending to make him or her miss you. In fact, the opposite is bound to happen.

Your ex will only get turned off and think that you’ve turned into a psychotic, sniveling mess who can’t live without him or her. And while that can be an ego booster to some, that move will backfire on you.

The logic is quite simple. The more available you make yourself to your ex, the less “alluring” and “appealing” you appear to him or her. This is especially true for ladies: When you and your guy first got together, he was probably doing all the chasing. So consider this as another round of playing hard-to-get, but on a bigger scale, because you should be literally waaaaay ahead of him in that rocky road of romance.


Learn To Fly Solo

Another trick to making your ex miss you — and also because this one comes with a really, really good side benefit — is to live your life as a single person again. Don’t become a hermit post-breakup; go out with friends, become a rock star at work and put your best effort in the office, pick up a new hobby — essentially, fill all your waking hours with activities so you won’t have time to think about your ex, much less miss him or her.

This kind of coping mechanism works effectively for those who are reeling from the devastating effects of a breakup, such as Nash, a musician. “I channeled my energies to my music when I broke up with my girl,” he relates. “Yes, of course I missed her and I wanted desperately to pick up the phone and call and text her, and yeah, maybe working on new songs about heartbreak and all that crap made me miss her, but at least I was able to channel my frustration and misery in a, dare I say it, productive way.”

In other words, redirect your feelings of longing in a positive light. Doing so will not only make your ex miss you (especially when he or she sees your fantastic Facebook status updates showing that you’re living an awesome life sans him or her), but it will also NOT give you the time and space to dwell on your not-so-pleasant feelings, as well as bring you to the realization that moving on with your life can be liberating.


Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

In my experience, one thing that always works (at least for me) when dealing with a breakup — and consequently making my ex miss me — is traveling. Sometimes I travel alone; sometimes I have a buddy or two with me.

Whatever the circumstances, I always make sure to visit places that I’ve never been to with him, so that there’s no room for me to miss him. And since we all live in a small world, I know that sooner or later, the news of my sojourns will reach him.

There was even one time when my friend, who took my advice, told me that it worked for her. “For the longest time, I was so scared to travel without him, since we were together for four years and I was so used to going everywhere with him,” she shares with me.

“But he found out through friends about my travel plans, since I never told him. Pretty soon, he started sniffing around again, saying that he missed me — that he missed traveling with me, and that led to the other things that he missed about me.”

So take a chance, and dare to get out of your comfort zone. You’ll feel so free and independent, and your ex will be missing you before you know it.

Sam’s Thoughts:

This is an article written by one of my writers.

I don’t necessary agree with everything she has written here but I still decided to post this article because first, I do like to have different point of views on my site and second, I think she has shared some great tips in this article.

You should definitely learn to fly solo and get out of your comfort zone but I think you should do so more for yourself rather than to make your ex miss you.

After all, trying to make your ex miss you is a little bit manipulative in my opinion.

Let’s not forget. You have totally no control over your ex. You can do everything listed in this article and your ex may still not miss you.

So I will suggest implementing the tips in this article to better yourself. If your ex does start to miss you, treat it as a bonus but don’t get too hung out on it if they don’t.

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83 thoughts on “How To Get Your Ex To Miss You Like Crazy

  1. Four days ago my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me through a text out of no where during his one week study abroad out of the country. We didn’t have any arguments that week to lead to a break up. Occasionally in the relationship, we would have small arguments about stupid crap. It is so out of the blue and I’m so heart broken.
    In the text he said stuff like “I think we need to end this… I think I need to find myself because I don’t know what I want… Haley I really do love you and have tried to make it work but I love you enough to let you go. You don’t deserve the way I treat you… You’re my best friend and you know I’ll always be here for you no matter what…. From deep down in my heart I am truly sorry I’m doing this to you and I’m heart broken because you are such a great girl. I still think you are the one Haley but I don’t think it’s the right time. I personally think I need to grow up and mature before we get back into a relationship as much as it kills me to say it.”
    I’m beyond heart broken and I just want him back. We were beyond happy with each other and I’m doing the no contact rule but it’s been 4 days… He never contacted me again or even asked to meet up and talk about it. He just cut me off entirely. I guess I’m just really confused and so scared he’s going to start dating this girl that he’s close friends with who throughout our whole relationship tried to break us up.

    1. A breakup seldom happen out of the blue. He has probably been thinking about it for at least a few weeks or even a few months.

      Perhaps you are trying to figure out the real reason why he broke up with you. I will suggest that you drop the idea for now.

      The fact that he chosen to break up with you over text probably means he doesn’t have the courage to break up with you face to face. I know he is overseas but as you said, it is only one week. He could have waited one week before facing you to break the news.

      So even if you are able to meet up with him, he is unlikely to tell you the entire truth.

      Also, try not to imagine things in your mind. Unless you have concrete evidence, don’t assume that he is or is going to date someone else. That is going to cause you to panic for no reason.

      Instead, what you need to do now is to implement a period of no contact in order to give yourself the time to heal and calm down. It is impossible to get your ex back if you are still very emotional and panicking.

      So take this time to focus on yourself.

  2. Hello everyone, so my ex girlfriend walked away from me in April and for a whole month I didn’t chase her or go back and apologize for the way I treated her. Instead, I enjoyed being single again. After a month, I saw her out and missed her so much. In May, we met up as my grandad had passed away so she was there for me. We kissed and slept together but she still resented me for the way I treated her. The following day she went home and told me she needs space. Couple days later, she text me saying she doesn’t want it anymore and it’s all wrong. She said it doesn’t feel the same anymore. She told me that we will never get back together as she doesn’t feel the same. I felt rejected and hurt so I did all the mistakes by begging her but it only pushed her away even more. I finally text back saying I won’t message her again and she told me thanks, that’s all I want. It’s been 16 days of NC, she hasn’t text me or asked how I am doing. Could be because I did the same to her.

    I will contact her again in two weeks when I feel much better and in a positive place. Do I have any chance at getting her back? I wonder sometimes if she misses me at all. We were together for 1 and half years but we did so much together.

    1. How did you treat her? Did it affect her badly?

      It seems like for your situation, an apology may be necessary in order to move things forward.

      You need to acknowledge her feelings. She needs to know that you understand how your behavior has affected her.

      Is there a reason why you are not apologizing? Hopefully, it is not because of pride. Sometimes, you need to learn how to put down your pride for the sake of having a better relationship.

  3. I will keep this as brief as I can. My guy and I dated for 2-3 months. We got along great; no fights/arguing, and he spent a lot of time with me. He also spent a lot of money on me even though I offered to pay when we went to eat, activities, ect. We had lots of plans for the future, such as events and camp trips, and he was even considering finding a place a little closer to where I live. He seemed very invested & committed to the relationship, and he was happy from what I can tell. The last few days we were together he seemed a bit withdrawn and I asked him what was on his mind. He said it was just stress. Few days later, I get the dreaded “We need to talk.” He blindsided me, but explained himself. He said he has trouble opening up to others and said he didn’t think his feelings for me were the same, and that he felt he couldn’t give me what I need. I was not clingy or needy. He felt it wasn’t fair or healthy to continue, and he said he needs to figure out why he has had a pattern of emotional uncertainty/disconnect in his relationships. He feels he hasn’t ever experienced real love, and intends on going to therapy to address these issues. He is a genuine and honest man so I don’t think he was making excuses. We very briefly talked for the 1st time 2 weeks after breaking up (in person). We haven’t called/texted one another yet. I will be in close proximity with him about once a week because we are both on a sport league. I feel like we deserve another chance and he means a lot to me. Is it likely that he will miss me (if he doesn’t already) and have a chance for reconciliation and building a new relationship? Any help is greatly appreciated.

  4. Dear Sam,

    My situation is a little different. Over 6 years ago I met a man online, and instantly felt something. I never believed in love at first sight, but that was the only way I can describe it. Problem was he was moving from his home state across the country to be with someone else he had met online. Fast forward, their relationship ended he went back to his home state and a little while after that him and I got together. Eventually he ended up moving to my state and moving in with me, and our relationship was rocky from the start, we both made a ton of mistakes, we broke up, got back together, broke up, etc.. The cycle went on for a long time and during all of that we had a child together, a beautiful little girl. At the end of last year we ended up splitting up again and he went back home but we kept in touch and there was talk of reconciliation, but I knew that things needed to change for both of us in order for it to truly work and it was going to take time. Things eventually took place and I recently ended up moving clear across the country. I now live 3000 miles away from him instead of the 600 miles it was before, he talked about moving out here and that he still loved me, etc.. But recently he got into a relationship with someone else, she lives in a foreign country, and at first he told me it was fake and just to see my reaction, but now he’s completely blocked me on everything, and refuses to talk to me, so I don’t even know if NC will work. All I know is I love this man, and I know I will always love this man, and I would do anything to have him back in my life. but I don’t know what to do now. Please help

    1. Focus on improving these relationship skills. If you don’t have the skills, then it is pointless to get back together because you will probably breakup again.

      So work on the important skills first. There are many books that teach these skills. Do your own research, pick up the books you need and start cultivating those skills.

      Maybe this is not the answer you want to hear but there is no shortcut to saving your relationship. You need these skills not just to get your ex back but also to manage and improve your relationship so that you won’t breakup again after getting back together.

  5. Hi, so my boyfriend and I of 3 years broke up about a month ago. We both had been up and down for the past few months. I noticed that when he started his current job and got some new friends he started gradually changing. Not wanting to do anything I wanted. Just stuff he wanted. He would go out with his friends more, while I stayed home to maintain the house. He had a really bad childhood, so I understand wanting to go out and have guy time, but I feel like he could have balanced hanging out with the guys and having a girlfriend. Near the end he would sleep til late in the day and when he would wake up he’d have some reason to be angry at me. He admitted that he doesnt mean to take his anger out on me and I dont deserve it, he’s just stressed out at work. So finally I had it with his anger outbursts and I said i cant do it anymore and that i was “done”. He said he was done too. He was angry and said some hurtful things, which I knew was purely out of anger and being hurt. A few days later, I came back (we lived together) so we could separate our things and we talked. We both agreed we needed time to work on ourselves and he said that maybe in the future we can work it out. A week later, we had to get that last of our things out and for whatever reason he didnt have a ride to get that last of his stuff out. So my mom and I helped him move the last of his stuff to his new place. As I dropped him off and was saying the final goodbyes I said “I dont know when we’ll see eachother again, but I hope you do well in life.” and he just hugged me and kissed the top of my head. He got out and got to his door and as he turned to wave I could see the tears pouring down his face.
    I really want to be with him. But there are things that would really have to change in order for me to be in a relationship with him again. I dont know if I should still hold on to him or if it should just be a life lesson…

    1. People can and do change, but only if they wanted to. So expecting him to change is probably not a smart move.

      Whether it should be a life lesson or whether to try get him back is a decision you have to make for yourself. Maybe take some time to weigh the pros and cons, what are his good points, bad points etc. Any absolute deal breakers? Any good reasons to reconcile this relationship?

      Of course, good reasons can be subjective. Let say you feel he is the only one who can connect with you in a certain way so far and that is a good enough reason for you, why not?

      Anyway, I don’t really like the word “hold on”. It sounds a little bit desperate. Why not use the word “invite” instead?

      The fact that you are here means at least a part of you want your ex back. You can’t change him but you can change yourself. You can always word towards the best version of yourself.

      So do that and later on, invite him back to take a sneak peak into your life. When he see the changes in you, maybe it will inspire him to want to change so that he deserves your invitation.

  6. Hi Sam,

    I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for a year now he rang 4 times ever day text all the time seen me every wkd (he worked nights I work days & he lives an hour from me) but we always made the most of our time together. He spoke of seeing me in his future he called me wifey in front of his mum & friends. But over 6 weeks ago he seemed annoyed and angry about nothing & I felt him kind of losing interest in me & yet he kept texting & calling but he wanted a wkd away with the boys (that was ok, he always rang me again calling wife & all in front of his friends even after the club) .

    Then the following wkd we were together but he rings me mid week to tell me cuz he’s off work he’s thinking of going to England to meet college for friends ….he could tell I wasn’t impressed & EVENTUALLY asked me to go ….only to ring me 30 minutes later that he had already booked his ticket meaning I couldn’t go?!?!

    but then he wanted another night away & it was with the same girl friends who were actually coming home from England to Belfastof ( I wasn’t threatened I know they’re just friends, but they were bring other girls too & there were no men???) what really annoyed me was this particular event was one that I wanted to go to & I had asked him to ages ago but he said no but when they asked he said yes straight away….& again he eventually asked me to go?!?!?

    These events still haven’t happened yet, Anyway long story short we had two good weeks there of getting along brilliantly but on Saturday I seen a private mail from a woman saying she was sorry she didn’t get his number & that she really hoped he didn’t have a girlfriend(obviously she seen he was in a relationship in Facebook)

    He never replied , he was coming ipto me the next day and I confronted him at 1st he denied it but I eventually got the truth that he kissed her in the club ….worst part he had told me that night after it on the phone that he love me, & how the fact that it took me so long to tell him I loved him killed him (it took me nearly a year)this was after the night club after he kissed this girl who apparently means nothing??

    Anyway I said I need a break (I really do) he didn’t fight for me!!! Until the next day he rang & said :

    he loved me .
    He needs me.
    He woke up hating the thought of a future without me.
    He felt physically sick about what he had done.
    That he swore on his mothers life (who lives to bits he’s so good to her) that he wouldn’t ever cheat on me again)

    The problem no is because I said we are on a break and this event in Belfast with all these girls & then the trip to England with same girls is going to happen when we are on a break….does he think he’s a free man…??

    I don’t want to talk to him I need my space what do you think? Is there hope I really love him ? I know I could forgive him so easily but will it happen again … He admitted that around the time he started distancing himself (bar the last two weeks) that he himself was thinking of a break….

    I keep thinking time apart might make him realise but part of me thinks he might have such a great time with all these places and temptation that he won’t want me back??? Help I’ve so confused???

  7. hai,

    this is about my wife, she is not interested in the marriage from day 1 and she shouts at me and scolds me alot. since 2 years i m trying my best to be with her. she ll be fine for one day and she leave to her parents home for couple of months.

    she ignores my phone calls. even she blocks my number. i love her a lot . i want this relationship to be alright.

    since 2 weeks she was fine , but yesterday cause of some silly reason she fought with me on road and she left. i dont no what to do now.

    Help me out please, i tried many ways to convince her . how can i make my wife to miss me.

    Please help me.

  8. Hi,
    Will NC work if I’ve only been with her for a short time i.e. a few months? Or does it only work for longer relationships? Thanks.

    1. It depends on the intensity of the relationship. If there is a strong enough emotional connection between both of you during that few months, it is still possible to save your relationship.

    1. This is not the most important thing you need to figure out.

      Over analysis doesn’t help you get your ex back. The important thing you need to focus on is the emotional connection.

      He may just be checking you out. Just because he is checking you out doesn’t mean he wants to get back together with you. It is very common for exes to do all kinds of weird things that have no meaning or significance.

  9. Hi Sam,
    My boyfriend and I been together for a year and a half. We a had a great loving relationship, barely any problems. But he broke up with me a few days ago because he is overwhelmed. Recently he found out his friends were backstabbing him and he has huge family issue come up, he sister was attacked by her boyfriend. This is true.
    He told me his mind wasn’t right, and I can sense it too.

    I just felt heartbroken, I tried to be there for him. He got so angry he said he was disappearing and that I should move on with my life. He is never coming back. This same man was talking about a marriage and future together 2 weeks before all this happen.

    I said I would give him space, I know he is going through a lot, and I was still going to be here for him. He ends up blocking me off of fb. I started the no contact deal a day ago.

    Did I ruin my chances, and how long do you think till he contacts me?

    1. Some guys have the tendency to shut down when they are stressed out, to the extent that they will want to break up. Maybe they see a relationship as an extra burden.

      I don’t think your chances are gone. Just give him some time to sort himself out. There is no way for me to know when he will contact you. Maybe just wait a few weeks and see if he contacts you. Meanwhile, you should work on yourself. When you are emotionally ready, you can reach out to him if he doesn’t contact you.

  10. My ex and I have known each other for 6 years but I’ve curved him for half of the time. We finally dated for a couple months and we broke up over a stupid arguement which was my fault because I was not understanding. He didn’t break up with me he only said he didn’t know if he wanted to or not but the way it was heading I knew it was over so I said I will not make you stay and ended it. I fucked up I wasn’t as supportive as I should of been. Anyways we did the no contact and he messaged me one time and then be stopped then he would message me then stop again finally he randomly called me and we discussed things and it seemed cool and we started to talk however I get the feeling he thinks I’m trying to hard. He said he has feelings but he doesn’t … What now?

  11. Hey Sam me and my boyfriend broke up about 2 months ago and we still go to school together. He dumped me and I chased him forever but I stopped a long time ago. Seeing him everyday makes me miss him a lot. He cheated on me and I forgave him and then he broke up with me. How do I make him miss me and then get him back, even though he kinda has a thing with a different girl who wasn’t the girl he cheated on me with?

  12. Hi Sam,

    My girlfriend of 1.5 years (who also lived with me and we got a dog together) broke up with me about two months ago.

    We definitely got together too fast and moved in too fast and whatnot, but we were intensely madly in love and filled each others’ needs. Since we’re both young (I’m 25, she’s 24), we’re still growing and learning ourselves. Through several insecurities and triggers, we ended up fighting quite a bit, but always resolving it after. When we fought, however, I was mean and let my anger get the better of me. I called her the C Word at times and felt horrible for it. It was like I have word vomit and Tourettes syndrome.

    Finally, she couldn’t take my mean words when we fought and broke up with me. She moved out and we casually dated again. Thought things were going well and going slow, but something switched off in her mind and she finally decided we couldn’t talk or see each other anymore and that she wanted to try seeing other people (although she cringed when she said that)

    Here’s the ultimate kicker… we also had an abortion together. I feel like that will always connect and bond us. While we both agree it was the right decision, it still makes me feel like we’re connected. I don’t want to use it just as an excuse to stay connected to her, but I still love her so much (cliché, but she said she loves me, but isn’t in love with me the same way anymore).

    Today’s DAY ONE of no contact…

    I guess I just wonder if I should wait for 30 days no contact and then contact her (which will mean I hold out hope we’ll still get together) or if I should move on completely…

    1. No contact alone is not going to magically help you get your ex back. That is because the root cause of the breakup is not going to suddenly disappear just because you go through no contact for 30 days. For example, you mentioned about your insecurities. Insecurities won’t suddenly disappear after 30 days without you working on yourself.

      It is more about what you do during no contact that will make the difference. You can spend this period of time working on your insecurities or any other problems that caused your breakup.

      If you are interested, you can sign up for our newsletter to learn how to get your ex back properly. Don’t try to take shortcut, thinking no contact is all you need to do to get your ex back. There are actually things you need to work on, and skills you need to learn in order to save your relationship.

    1. That is totally up to you.

      Just because you wish her happy birthday is not going to help you get her back. Not wishing her happy birthday is also not going to destroy your chances of getting her back.

      In other words, birthday greeting is an inconsequential action. It doesn’t play a big role when it comes to saving your relationship. So to do it or not to do it is totally up to you.

      The key to saving a relationship is by improving your emotional connection with her. That can be done by improving and developing your relationship skills. This is what you should spent most of your time and effort on. So don’t waste too much time worrying about whether or not to send her a birthday greeting.

      If you sincerely want to wish her happy birthday and you are doing so without any expectation, go ahead and wish her. However, if you are doing so hoping to get her to respond to you, then you should not do it.

  13. well my Ex broke up with me for something that was obviously her fault…but that isn’t the case .i did the NC for 30days…and went back to spot light ..and she was like she missed me she loves me and those bs…i tried keepingy as not to feel desperate… but after about 5-6 days….she started this idc about you… it’s your business attitude and she thinks i tripping lol..she even said it to me..that i am tripping
    .so i don’t know..can i do the NC again??.will be as effective as the first?

  14. My ex for a year broke up with me. We kept arguing a lot because of something she did…begged her to stay and she tried working it out, but told me last month that she fell out of love…Now we’re just “hi and bye” friends when we see each other on campus…

    1. What did she do? Seems like a really big deal to you. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have argued a lot.

      If you really want her back, you need to be able to forgive her. Otherwise, even if you are back together, you will argue again. So make sure you do that before you start actively trying to get her back.

      You can also sign up for our newsletter where we will share with you important information you have to know to get your ex back.

  15. Hello, i don’t where we stand between us I thought we were making progress to resolve our issues but now there is no progress. I don’t what happened we stop seeing each last year October and early this year he asked me where we stand, I told him I still love him and he does too. Then we arrange the time to meet he gone AWOL at me. Currently I did no contact rule,he contact me after 30days wish happy mother’s day then I replied and I said thanks. Now I have been thinking and missing him I don’t what to do.

    1. It seems pretty clear that both of you still have feelings for each other.

      The reason why it doesn’t work is because both of you are trying to solve an emotional problem using logic.

      Since you didn’t give me more details, I don’t know what happen between the two of you that causes the breakup. However, you need to understand that a breakup is always caused by the loss of emotional connection.

      It may have started from something very small. The problem is, most people are not trained to handle emotions. So you sweep the small issue under the carpet. Eventually, the small issue grows out of proportion and the emotional connection is weakened to such an extent that a breakup happens.

      So you can’t really talk about issues and expect that to save your relationship. It is not going to work. The talking (logic) can come later. You need to focus on the emotional connection first.

      If you don’t know how to connect with your ex emotionally, then start learning the skills to do so. We show you what skills you need to learn to improve your emotional connection with your ex in our newsletter. You can sign up above.

  16. Hello everyone. Kinda bad situation here. I moved into my house a few years ago. Met my neighbor we talked occasionally then it got more and more and after her chasing me for about 8 months I gave in and tryed being with her. It ended up being the best relationship I have ever experienced. Her 10 year old daughter loved me to and I love her as well. We made it about a year together. We split up once in between for about a week. And now we are on second split up a few months later. We have gone no contact after 2 weeks. But I see her car and her daughter and her almost everyday around the house. She was mad in love with me and it just went away. I know what I did wrong and I am working on myself but that woman was fuming cause she kept seeing me outside. I had let her know that I am doing what i need to do to fix things and exsplained what it was.The last time we split up she told me she missed me and was just waiting for my txts. Lol.but everytime I txt her she was just cold and one worded. This time is different. Blocked me on fb the day we broke up and we just agreed to delete eachothers numbers. I can still feel deep down that she loves me and misses me but she will not admit it and is trying to be strong. I am respecting her choice. We have never made it passed 3 days no contact before I would msg her. I am starting to feel.better and working on myself. But I love her very much. Just looking for another pair of eyes on what everyone thinks. Thank you muchly! Oh no drugs abuse or cheating in the relationship ship. I was to needy and didn’t give her much space and she had enough.

  17. So, my ex bf broke up with me four days ago. We had an intense two months together. He even gave me a spare key to his place since I started staying over a lot. He’s a very successful career oriented guy. But he still made time for me. I messed it up though, I kept messing up with his rest and it was conflicting with his super demanding career. I was going out once a week with friends, drank too much, and would ask to go to his place to sleep over. He was fine in the beginning, but then it became annoying to him since it would keep him up and he couldn’t focus and get enough rest. So…it was one time too many even after I kept saying sorry and I’ll be more considerate. But the last time he got fed up and said he couldn’t do it anymore and that he doesn’t trust that I can change my partying ways. I apologized, but I didn’t matter to him. Now I miss him so much. I felt like we had a lot of potential…I started the NC rule, but he recently msg me saying I forgot something at his place and whether I want him to drop it off or mail it. I told him which ever is more convenient for him since he is busy and I wanted to show consideration. But he hasn’t replied since whether he was mailing or it bringing it to me…I don’t know what to think anymore. He keeps checking out my stories on Instagram and we are still following each other…Please help. Thank you.

    1. Hi everyone, I’m looking for some help and advice. My parents bet of just over a year broke up with me a week ago, we had a huge argument, we had some serious issues but I felt we could have worked through them. Firstly there is a 16 year age gap, which he really struggles with, I’m 51 and he is 67. He is the one who pursued me and he knew how old I was from the beginning. I have fallen so much in love with him and I don’t know what to do. We have had no contact for the past week since we broke up. He is such a good man and he shows his affection by actions but I always felt he struggles with showing affection and intimacy, i have never given up on us and I still feel I want to make everythng right but I do not want to be a burden to him, his happiness is as important to me as my own, if it means me keeping out of his life for good if that’s what’s best for him then I will do that, I would also like to add that he was the first man who got my attention after many years, as I had a major break up in my life a long time ago and he is the one man who won me over when I had purposely remained single for all of those years, any help or advice I would appreciate it very much

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